Cocky or Confident: The Age-Old Argument of When Too Much is “Too Much”

Joseph Gilliland is confident. But, is he cocky? His Facebook page features a well-known manga character muttering under his breath the words “my life, my rules.” It may come across as overconfident boasting, but is there anything particularly wrong with that? Gilliland caps his Facebook page off with a large banner- BOSS.

There are bosses in all facets of life. A handful of them got there because they got absurdly lucky, and they were born into the right family. The majority of them fought for that position. They were the ones who said “my life, my rules” when everyone else is concerned about how their cockiness appears to the public. It is perhaps why so many of the country’s leaders are delusional egomaniacs. Perhaps it takes a little mania to take part in ruling the world?

Gilliland is not one to roll over and take a punch. His energy comes across defiantly in his popular Facebook page. In many ways, Gilliland is part of the larger culture created around the web. Call them millennials or call them angsty lost teenagers. The point stands- no one else is making the rules.

Perhaps the main distinction between someone who is confident and someone who is cocky is their willingness to be wrong. Some of the smartest genius’ in the world have admitted they were grossly wrong. They are confident of their skills. But, they will ultimately nod when something does not work as predicted.

People who are cocky will move into a situation without fully assessing it. They will often admit they were right all along, and they will not admit they screwed up. There is a greater rulebook surrounding everyone. It is called the law. Others call it the Bible. Regardless, it is the one that sets the rules. There is no requirement that says they have to be followed. Millenials such as Joseph can throw the book out the window. He can be a boss and grab the success he craves. He can write about it and share the comments of common users because he understands one thing many do not. The rules, as convenient and social as they are, are sometimes meant to be broken.